Have you ever been concerned about a situation and wanted to help... but didn't?
You're not alone.
This situation is more common than you might think, and is known as the bystander effect. Step UP! is a comprehensive bystander intervention program that will teach you:
- The 5 Decision Making Steps
- Other Factors that Affect Helping, including Perspective Taking
- Strategies for Effective Helping
- The S.E.E. Model: Safe; Early; Effective
- Warning Signs, Action Steps and Resources
Step UP! is used by athletics, Greek life, student affairs, campus health, violence prevention centers, residence life and many others. Learn more now: students or facilitators. And view our Create a Caring Community: Step UP! video.
Some upperclassmen are hosting a party. Some freshmen have confided in you that they don't drink and aren't huge "partiers" but since it's their teammates and they want to make a good impression, they are going to go.
You are there and everyone seems to be having a good time until one of the seniors suggests a drinking game. You know the danger of consuming alcohol quickly and are concerned. Teammates start to gather around a table as one of them begins to explain the rules for the drinking game. The freshmen who had confided in you initially decline but others start hassling them. You can see they're
uncomfortable. They look at you. What do you do?
You are on Facebook and see some of your teammates' posts about upcoming "initiation" for this year's freshmen, as well as pictures from last year. You know it's actually hazing and you're not comfortable with what they are planning.
It seems that they push the limit a little more every year but they justify it by saying it's what makes the team close and that it's "tradition." You want to say something but feel intimidated and don't want them to think less of you. What do you do?
You are hanging out with teammates and one of them makes a very insulting and derogatory remark about someone's alleged sexual orientation. They go on to sarcastically say that they definitely won't be rooming with them on road trips.
You find it inappropriate. What do you do?
Scenario: Sexual Assault
You are at a party. During the past hour you notice one of your male friends has been talking to a young woman. They seem to be having a good time but it is clear that the woman has had too much to drink. At one point your friend walks by you and you hear him say he is just going to get her "one more" and "that should be enough."
A few minutes later you see him put his arm around the young woman and start to lead her upstairs. What do you do?
Scenario: Relationship Abuse
You and a friend live on the same wing in the dorms. You walk by her room and hear her crying. In the past, she has shared with you that her boyfriend yells at her, humiliates her, and always wants to know where she is and who she's with. She also says he won't let her do things she wants to.
It appears she has some fresh bruises around her eye and on her arms. What do you do?
You notice a teammate has been very down lately, more so than circumstances might dictate. Friends have also come to you about changes in her behavior.
This person has become withdrawn and is not as active and social as before. You have become concerned. What do you do?
Scenario: Disordered Eating
A friend of yours appears to have lost quite a bit of weight lately. You notice that her eating habits are becoming more and more unusual. She is skipping meals and altering foods when she does eat (e.g., pulling cheese off pizza).
When approached, she is defensive, denying that anything is wrong. This has negatively impacted not only her performance but also your relationship with her. What do you do?
A friend is selling some of his important and valuable belongings. He has also asked other friends to borrow money.
He is spending an inordinate amount of time at the computer and appears to be overly invested in the outcomes of sporting events. What do you do?
You and a few teammates are at a party when someone begins insulting you (for being athletes, for a team's performance, etc.).
Despite everyone's best effort to ignore these obnoxious comments, you can see one of your teammates is becoming more and more irritated. He has a history of losing his temper. What do you do?
You are in a group of five students writing a paper for your Sociology 101 class. The other four members want to cut and paste everything from the internet because they believe the professor will not check the source of your information.
You feel pressured to go along with the group, but you know that regardless of whether the professor checks, copying the content directly and alleging it is your own is not right. What do you do?